How To let go and embrace the new

We have to let go of the life behind us to embrace the life in front of us.

Life is ever-changing, a fluid dance that fluctuates at a moment’s notice. The only thing we can count on is that things will change. If we cannot let go of the life behind us we will miss out on the one unfolding in front of us.

Acceptance is one of the most difficult aspects of letting go; it is painful to accept what we do not want to face or see or believe. We’d rather hold onto something and stay in denial than face the facts before us: that the life we knew isn’t the life we have now, and things aren’t ever going to be the same. We can mourn the way things were and cherish the memories but to hold tight to what was prevents us from experiencing what is today and what can be tomorrow.

Take It Easy (Everything is Working Out)

All week I’ve been getting messages from multiple sources to rest easy, to rest assured, knowing everything is always working out for the highest good (for myself and others). This is a mantra I have adopted and use frequently, but worry and control can often overpower the sentiment behind the message—which is to trust that everything is working out (even if appearances seem grim) despite my best efforts to control things. 

We (myself included) tend to work so hard at ensuring things go the way we want (and hope for) never realizing that things may (are) working out for the highest and best good—which is more often than not better than we even imagine (through possibilities that aren’t even in our awareness, yet).

How to Move Out of Your Depression

Last week we spoke about the sneaky feelings that cause those very bad, no good days; but what about the absence of feeling? I’m talking about apathy, a symptom of depression, when we feel nothing, care about nothing and want to sleep all the live long day. What I’ve learned about depression is there’s an antidote to apathy and it’s called action. Of course, action is the last thing we want to do when depression robs us of our zest. But it is also the solution to our apathetic state.  

There’s almost always an impulse to do something beneficial (and it’s not to sleep all day); the problem is we don’t feel like doing it. When we are depressed, the flow of energy has been plugged up and this stagnant state leaves us lagging without the faintest emotion to emit. Enter in apathy.

A Synopsis on A Wrinkle in Time

I may have encountered my favorite book of all time. I never thought I’d find myself saying this; sure, I have thoroughly enjoyed books: The Help, Matilda, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, Eat, Pray, Love and Broken Open, but they never felt like the favorite of all time. That all changed when I decided to read A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle. The piece of fiction is true literary gold, which is to say that the author was anointed by the writing gods when she both got the idea for the book and carried the novel out in ingenious fashion. It’s no wonder there’s a gold seal on the cover, the John Newberry Medal, an homage to the anointed nature of the book.

Embracing the Tough Facets of Life

I recently found myself experiencing more “bad” days than “good ones,” a natural response given certain circumstances in my life. As a bonafide optimist, with a motto like “No bad days” lingering in my mind, I had to remind myself that those tough days are normal, expected even, especially given the seasons we might be swimming through.

We experience so much resistance to negative feelings - depression, anxiety, anger, grief, sadness, apathy - and do anything to avoid the undesirable states of being. But what if those states are not just needed but called for? We can’t expect life to feel good all the time and as humans we aren’t meant to feel joy and happiness all the time. Polarity is a part of life that helps us appreciate the good when it does bless us with its presence.

Suicide Is Not the Solution

As someone who battled suicidal thoughts, the only thing that compelled me to stay on the Earth at times was the thought of hurting my family by leaving. In those days, that thought (and the love behind it) saved my life. Since then, my faith, awareness and mindfulness grew exponentially; I could catch the suicidal thoughts as thoughts before I chased them down the rabbit hole and began looking at actions to end my life.

I wasn’t always gifted with the faith and awareness I have now; despite the profound love for my family, I may have taken my own life. Now that I am on the other side of those circumstances, I am sharing a spiritual and practical perspective on suicide in hopes of preventing precious lives from being lost.

If you know anyone who is suffering in the slightest and may need to hear that their life matters, that they matter and that suicide isn’t the solution to their problems, please send them this video. It could be the difference between a life saved and a life lost.

If you are suffering, I encourage you to reach out to someone right now. Call the 24-hour Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.

Befriending Feelings

When uncomfortable feelings come to visit like loneliness, sadness, grief or frustration, they are asking to be let in, known and felt. They want and need our attention, so we can experience the benefit of our feelings. They are arising, trying to be known, so they can show up, be felt and get the heck out of dodge (aka our bodies).

When we give feelings the luxury of being felt, they can go on their way; it’s up to us to let them—by first feeling them and thus releasing them. Often when we feel something roll in and let it in to be felt, we may let it linger far longer than need be. This is one of the reasons we avoid feelings; we think our feelings will come and stay, leaving us incapacitated by them. 

Teaming Up With God

Faith, trust and expectation of God’s power, goodness and blessings surely sets the stage for miracles. By going it completely alone, we lose out on Divine access to endless support around us. It’s as if we are on the court playing against a team of opponents (let’s call them “life”) and we are trying to score. We could call in God, a team of Angels and Heavenly guides to assist us, but we may feel it’s entirely on our shoulders to get the ball in the basket.

Faith and trust are also our teammates. They clear away the bad energies that otherwise block our way to the other end of the court and invite in our Spiritual Support team. Faith sets us up to believe there is a God and an army of Angels alongside us. When we not only know this to be true, but wholeheartedly trust in them, we can circumvent much of the fear that otherwise stops us in our tracks. 

{Truth-telling} Self Love, Self Care and Recovery

{Truth-telling} Self Love, Self Care and Recovery

I’m still mastering the art of self care. I always will be. It’s a lifelong lesson to love myself and put this practice in the forefront of my life.

Today I was lying down to take a break (self care win) while giving myself Reiki. I had three options for the evening: door 1: yoga, door 2: reiki share and door 3: step study at church. 

Lying there, I asked myself which option I’d like to choose. My body said more rest but my mind said yoga. Even though yoga is something I never regret doing, oftentimes my body needs to rest (even more than I already had).

Even so, I rushed out of the house to get to yoga in time. Three minutes into my drive, I remembered this yoga class is on Monday and Wednesday. It was Tuesday. Not only did my body need to rest, but my mind needed a break too.