Resistance is a form of fear; it masquerades as something like procrastination. There are many forms of resistance but they all have one commonality: they stem from fear. Once we finally understand the root of our resistance, we can work toward facing the fears that have caused such resistance in our lives. With this new realization, we are empowered to work through our fears so they no longer remain the driving force behind our actions.
Our resistance in life is a surefire sign that God is trying to do a work in us and through us. Resistance is a form of fear; it masquerades as something like procrastination but at the core of your resistance is fear of something. Fear is always an indication of where (or what) God is asking us to step forward into.
We hold the most fear in the areas we need to move in because our ego knows there is much at stake—fear is it’s only prevention and preservation mechanism. God asks us to move where there is the most resistance because wherever the most fear lies is where God is calling us toward: into growth and challenge and blessings and purpose — all things that can only be found outside the comfort of our ego.
When we expect good things to happen the likelihood that they will is so much higher. Our belief in the good things coming makes us a magnet for those miracles to find us. We can expect to experience miracles, reach resolutions for our problems, overcome difficulties and so much more when we believe life is on our side. When we trust God is on our side, life will reflect this belief.
When we expect things to go well, believing that there’s always a surprise around the bend, God can more easily deliver based on our expectations—not because God is in the business of giving us everything we want when we want it, but because He is able to match our level of belief.
We have to let go of the life behind us to embrace the life in front of us.
Life is ever-changing, a fluid dance that fluctuates at a moment’s notice. The only thing we can count on is that things will change. If we cannot let go of the life behind us we will miss out on the one unfolding in front of us.
Acceptance is one of the most difficult aspects of letting go; it is painful to accept what we do not want to face or see or believe. We’d rather hold onto something and stay in denial than face the facts before us: that the life we knew isn’t the life we have now, and things aren’t ever going to be the same. We can mourn the way things were and cherish the memories but to hold tight to what was prevents us from experiencing what is today and what can be tomorrow.
All week I’ve been getting messages from multiple sources to rest easy, to rest assured, knowing everything is always working out for the highest good (for myself and others). This is a mantra I have adopted and use frequently, but worry and control can often overpower the sentiment behind the message—which is to trust that everything is working out (even if appearances seem grim) despite my best efforts to control things.
We (myself included) tend to work so hard at ensuring things go the way we want (and hope for) never realizing that things may (are) working out for the highest and best good—which is more often than not better than we even imagine (through possibilities that aren’t even in our awareness, yet).
Last week we spoke about the sneaky feelings that cause those very bad, no good days; but what about the absence of feeling? I’m talking about apathy, a symptom of depression, when we feel nothing, care about nothing and want to sleep all the live long day. What I’ve learned about depression is there’s an antidote to apathy and it’s called action. Of course, action is the last thing we want to do when depression robs us of our zest. But it is also the solution to our apathetic state.
There’s almost always an impulse to do something beneficial (and it’s not to sleep all day); the problem is we don’t feel like doing it. When we are depressed, the flow of energy has been plugged up and this stagnant state leaves us lagging without the faintest emotion to emit. Enter in apathy.
I may have encountered my favorite book of all time. I never thought I’d find myself saying this; sure, I have thoroughly enjoyed books: The Help, Matilda, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, Eat, Pray, Love and Broken Open, but they never felt like the favorite of all time. That all changed when I decided to read A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle. The piece of fiction is true literary gold, which is to say that the author was anointed by the writing gods when she both got the idea for the book and carried the novel out in ingenious fashion. It’s no wonder there’s a gold seal on the cover, the John Newberry Medal, an homage to the anointed nature of the book.
I recently found myself experiencing more “bad” days than “good ones,” a natural response given certain circumstances in my life. As a bonafide optimist, with a motto like “No bad days” lingering in my mind, I had to remind myself that those tough days are normal, expected even, especially given the seasons we might be swimming through.
We experience so much resistance to negative feelings - depression, anxiety, anger, grief, sadness, apathy - and do anything to avoid the undesirable states of being. But what if those states are not just needed but called for? We can’t expect life to feel good all the time and as humans we aren’t meant to feel joy and happiness all the time. Polarity is a part of life that helps us appreciate the good when it does bless us with its presence.
As someone who battled suicidal thoughts, the only thing that compelled me to stay on the Earth at times was the thought of hurting my family by leaving. In those days, that thought (and the love behind it) saved my life. Since then, my faith, awareness and mindfulness grew exponentially; I could catch the suicidal thoughts as thoughts before I chased them down the rabbit hole and began looking at actions to end my life.
I wasn’t always gifted with the faith and awareness I have now; despite the profound love for my family, I may have taken my own life. Now that I am on the other side of those circumstances, I am sharing a spiritual and practical perspective on suicide in hopes of preventing precious lives from being lost.
If you know anyone who is suffering in the slightest and may need to hear that their life matters, that they matter and that suicide isn’t the solution to their problems, please send them this video. It could be the difference between a life saved and a life lost.
If you are suffering, I encourage you to reach out to someone right now. Call the 24-hour Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255.
After a particularly grueling year in 2015—one that tested me spiritually, physically and emotionally, I reflected back on life and wrote a list of intentions for the new year—how I’d live if I embraced the message behind my favorite line in Mary Oliver’s poem, “A Summer’s Day.”